DISLIKE OF THE UNLIKE: Breaking apart the element of Fire
LIKENESS OF THE LIKE / DISLIKE OF THE UNLIKE
Breaking apart the element of Fire and the attribute of Sina/ hatred.
Based on a 39 Melachos shiur by Rabbi Yaakov Zalman Labinsky 2-1-2021 / 19 shvat
We learn that according to Rav Chaim Vital that the core attribute that emanates from aish/ fire, the Ohr sichli is humility / anava
When we think “I am a force unto myself”, this is the first level of extraction, This can lead to kaas/ anger, and arrogance – the attitude of the world has to go according to MY way / My truth. Kaas is not just a hot temper, it is an inflated ego. Actually it is misappropriated Inner fire
When one resonates with the inner element of aish / arrogance / anger, I feel that I have a right and place to tell other people what to do based on my truth because I am right.
The key is the ability to distinguish the time to be tender and the time to be tough. Unfortunately when we are being stringent on others, it is misappropriated middot of the element of aish / fire.
Oheivei Hashem vsinu raa.
David Hamelech writes, Oheivei Hashem vsinu raa. Love Hashem and hate evil. The question is, if we are not supposed to hate, how is he introducing hate (sinu raa/ hate evil)? His son Shlomo Hamelech in Koheles writes, there’s a time to love and time to hate. Rav Chaim Vital is telling us the midda of sina/ hatred emanates from aish.
If we are coming from the side of fire / gaiva / nefesh behamis, fire seeks to burn out the part of other people NOT like you.
If my basis is nefesh behamis (animal lower soul level) : I am a force to be reckoned with… other people need to affirm my own finite existence. The bigger the ego the less space there is for others, but me.
The subtle implication is: LIKENESS OF THE LIKE. We are the same to the extent to which I’m ok with them. Those other people get pushed to the outer circles based on :
· Degrees of tolerance
· Degrees of basic acceptance
· Degrees of dislike
This leads to an intolerance and a growing lack of understanding for that which is different. If the intolerance and impatience inflate, chas v’shalom. It can transform into hatred/ sina and it becomes the DISLIKE OF THE UNLIKE: You’re my enemy. I will seek to destroy.
It happens on the inside of jewish people. Spiritual auto immunity doesn’t differentiate. It attacks its own and seeks to obliterate, driven by hatred, sourced from the midda of kapdanos/ severity: If you are not following “OUR WAYS”. This results in gaiva/pride; unrectified evil / violence.
This is Fire at the YUD level, the unrectified part of you if it is allowed to spirals down:
Fire> gaiva> kaas> sina.
David Hamelech is telling us. There is a reality of sina, but it can be rectified on a higher level: ie.
I ONLY LOVE WHICH IS YOURS, HASHEM,
ALL THE LEVELS OF TORAH- THE 4 LEVELS OF PARDES.
THESE DIFFERENT TYPES OF PEOPLE ARE ALL YOUR CHILDREN.
On this level, where there is room for hatred?
But if it manifests as raa/ evil, It creates true divisiveness. It becomes very loaded with all kinds of triggers: sinas chinam becomes more than the cause as the more dislike grows.
We have to ask ourselves does this feeling in my relationship come from a real place of love for HKBH? If its Anti-Gd in the extreme, we are meant to hate. If that’s the case, it goes back to anava / humility. Fire from the ohr sichli (higher light of intelligence). I therefore must fortify my Emunah in the greatest way possible and fortify my anava / humility in front of Hashem: There’s nothing but you. Ayn Od Milvado. Fortify my anava from my nefesh/ blood/ cellular level. Fortify my anava in front of others. Whether I have physical wealth, intellectual ability, creative talent, etc, It is not mine. Its on loan from You, Hashem. You direct everything.
I AM READY TO MEKABEL / ACCEPT, WHOLEHEARTEDLY AND TOIL.
Pull back kindly and tenderly with people who are in the “Unlike me” category.
MAKE PEOPLE, DON’T BREAK THEM. Take the topic or issue at hand, and own it, fix it, and elevate it. Down to the fourth level of the aspect /prat of aish/fire. We don’t want to have senseless hatred, but very limited targeted hatred. OHAVEI HASHEM VSINU RAA.
This is the higher level of progression:
FIRE> HUMILITY > INNER CALMNESS.
You will feel a deeper love through your heart center. You don’t need to be angry about anything. The midda of Sina: triggers the transformation of the midda of fire to: I need to love. The bigger my mind can perceive, the more I can love. Nurture a real, deep ,awesome love for one self. I love me as loving Hashem, (not narcissistic). Why? Because Ani HASHEM. I am created btzelem Elokim, in G-d image. The more I emulate him, the more true I am to my essence.
This real sense of love is derived from the inner love of our self. The inner form of the Shaim Havaya. Acknowledging that Hashem made us perfectly imperfect. Feel that in ourselves
Then kamocha. Love your fellow Jew. Love the other person. Believe and know… that they are created as the netzitzot / sparks of El-kim. Their own special blend of elements (earth, water, air, fire) and middos, including their unrectified parts. Believe in them. See the G-dliness in them!
Its not an emotion... Its the ohr sichli. The inner-most perception of oneself as Gdly. Love His ways and His creation
Hate only as an outgrowth of the nefesh Elokis G-dly soul. This is no basis for kaas/ anger, gaiva/pride.. Be bold enough to remove the solitary eclipse / The grand illusion that “I am in control”.
Reconvert to ayin / nothingness. The only true self is our G-dly being. We are manifestations of Gd which has to come from an awesome place of love, from this higher element of aish/fire.
This is what the midda of sina/ hatred teaches us. With immense gratitude to Hashem, for bringing the Ari’zal to Rav Chaim Vital, revealing our role and purpose. We are meant to harness the forces of inner anger and inner severities / kapdanus and not kill them, but harness them and trap them. Then awaken them and and reveal the. We will need spiritual sunglasses to do this tikkun hamidda of sinas chinam.
We will be illuninators
Sina came into the world at Sinai. Once HKB”H gave us his Torah and we became the carriers of the banner of divine truth for all generations; the world could no longer can act in a whimsical manner. Their hatred / sina awakens with in us, humility and the awareness to activate teshuva.
We must develop a like for the similar AND the different… to love and embrace the inner part of others. Ahavas chinam is Ahava/Love on the greatest level. By tapping into our elemental fire /Ohr sichli / our inner/ pnimius light and knowledge, our own we will be zoche to a higher vision, seeing the love for ourselves, for others and humanity. If we don’t do this avoda/work and chose to elevate the light/ fire, we will stay a limited constricted perspective, on both a personal and communal level, chas vshalom.
In these days of darkness and conflict, may we use our breakdowns and triggers to release our fire. Not allow our neshama / soul to be in eclipse. Peel away the klippas/layers. Create your own Divine identity… within and without for the geula sheleima. The fundamental restoration of the world in the highest form is happening.
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